Archive for July, 2007
FatMan here. Well let’s see. This is day 7 of the FatMan siege on 218 pounds. It would be easy for someone to get discouraged with their progress if the focus is on a short term goal. The reality is that on any long term diet there are going to be periods where you will not lose any weight. This is especially true if you are employing a rapid weight loss strategy like the one that I have adopted. Your body will eventually adapt to even the lowest of calorie intakes and modify it’s internal metabolism in an effort to maintain it’s body weight (whatever the level).
This is when a battle tested dieter like myself realizes that longevity and even dieting strategy come into play. My goal is to lose 80 pounds in 180 days. I am ahead of schedule and almost halfway home with almost 2/3 of my time left. At this point it is better for me to diet in spurts of a few weeks with a stabilization period sandwiched in between. Knowing that I will encounter these types of weight loss “dry spells” (and even expecting them) helps you keep things in the proper mental perspective. As I have documented I am not pefect by any means. I have even gained a few pounds on several occasions. Like any food addict I will, at times, eat something that I shouldn’t. You just need to eat your “evil foods” on your terms and not feel like you are a failure for “giving in” to your Urkles (food urges). Make it a reward not a concession.
FatMan Knowledge Nugget: Staying mentally in control of your diet keeps you on track to succeed.
How do you stay in control mentally? You develop an overall goal and vision for your weight loss plan. This includes time frames for plateau or step goals. Refer back to the previous blog entry on how you “Eat an Elephant One Bite At A Time”. Knowing (or at least convincing yourself) that you are going to succeed is the first big step toward realizing your new weight. The resulting personal pride that you feel as you go along your weight loss journey grows with each interim goal that you reach.
For me my next big goal is the half way point. I am targeting Saturday as the day I reach this goal. Imagine 40 pounds lost in 65 days. I’ll take it.
Keep this major thought in mind. You can still succeed even if you aren’t totally convinced initially. How? You need to find someone to mentally lean on until your own belief takes hold. Ideally, someone who is going through the exact same thing and actually wants you to succeed. A “brother in arms” so to speak.
Let me know if I can help.
God Bless Us Fat People,
FatMan here. I think a good area to discuss would be how you spend your weight loss time. Assuming that you are now currently doing battle with your food demons (real and imagined) you are faced with choices every day. Like everyone else you allocate a block of time to deal with your weight loss. You take time to think about your current state, what you will eat today, and what else you will do to help you in your efforts to lose weight. This may all happen in your brain in only a few seconds or you may actually take some quality time to think about it. If you are following my “Pay Your DEWS” plan you have a well defined goal set that takes care of this provided you follow it. For those interested in exploring this avenue go here.
Let me plant this seed.
FatMan Knowledge Nugget: Every significant personal accomplishment ever achieved also involves planning, consistent action, and plan review/modification.
That sounded pretty good. What I am trying to say is that when you really want something a person will focus on the end objective to see it through. You need to do the same thing with your weight loss. If you treat your weight loss program as an afterthought, your results will more than likely be less than desired. Each person mentally assigns an importance value that they place on their weight loss plan. This directly impacts how much time is spent thinking about reaching their goal weight. The more importance (priority) the better chance of success.
OK, I know that everyone is busy and we don’t spend all day thinking about losing weight (maybe about eating but not losing weight). So how do we make it work? How do we fit it into our busy lives? You establish workable priorities. Priorities that work for you in your own personal situation.
First of all, you set aside a block of time for your weight loss program. This time can be used to check in at fatmanmelts.com “Chew The Fat” forum, review your progress, establish future goals, modify your weight loss attack plan, or exercise (hopefully do them all). For the first month I would recommend a longer block of time. Preferably at the same time every day. You are adding a new component to your daily routine and you need to make sure it sticks as a daily part of your routine. It doesn’t have to be 60 minutes or 90 minutes, it is what will work for you. Remember this is a long term lifestyle change not a quick fix. We are not plugging the dam with a piece of chewing gum. You are performing personal permanent corrective surgery. This is the new you and the time you spend on yourself is VERY valuable. If it isn’t you need to change your thoughts on your personal time.
Everyone loves to be pampered. Think of this as your personal pampering session. I know what you are saying. I can hear it. You just said (or thought) I don’t have the time. Here is a news flash. Everyone has the same amount of time in a day. You determine what is important to you (your priorities) and how you spend your time. To put it another way, how would your thoughts on your weight loss program change if your went in for a routine medical check up and your doctor said you were going to be dead in 3 months if you didn’t lose weight? Would that maybe change your priorities? Would you find some time for your weight loss program then?
I use several tools to keep me on track. I do this blog every day. It forces me to think not only about weight loss but why I am losing weight. The mental side of weight loss is the biggest hurdle anyway. I also keep a weight journal and have inserted numerous new activities into my daily routine. I weigh every morning. I record my food intake. I even make a note of vitamin and supplement intake and bowel movements. It is a little extreme maybe, but it keeps my on task. Your goal is to carve out your personal time to focus on your weight loss.
Speaking of weight loss, I have been stuck at 218 for it seems like forever. I have shifted gears into a more aggressive weight loss mode. The only component of my program that I cannot use now is exercise. Due to my back injury/leg numbness it is just not possible. Speaking of Doctors I went for a physical yesterday. My general health is supposedly very good. For you men around 50 like me I even endured the dreaded prostate probe for the first time. Enough said about that. My Doctor did check my back. She actually thought it may be my hip and put me on a steroid to see if it would help. At this point I am game for most meds (even though I don’t generally like to take pills). The steroid is PREDNISONE. I am glad that I checked out the link though. It cautions against eating grapefruit and that is my favorite breakfast fruit!
FatMan Knowledge Nugget: You can never be too careful when taking any kind of drug. Read up on it yourself to be safe.
When my wife heard she asked me if I knew about the side effects. She said a common side effect is weight gain! Oh well it is only for 5 days so we will see. Who knows maybe this will get me fixed and the numbness will go away in my leg.
Let me humbly suggest that you make one of your priorities getting checked out periodically by a Doctor. Especially us men,we don’t seem to need a checkup unless something is swollen or dislocated. But it is a good idea, especially if you are thinking about losing weight.
I am thinking about it every day.
God Bless us Fat People,
FatMan here. You know there are so many negative things said about being fat that I thought I would outline the positive side of obesity. It may help some of my fellow Fat People put there morbid obesity in a new light.
The Positives Of Being Fat:
- You can eat as much as you like whenever you like
- You learn to compromise a lot since you have to change how you do just about everything from dressing to washing your heiny
- You become a friendlier person because otherwise you won’t have ANYONE say ANYTHING to you
- You become a more compassionate person after suffering numerous fat insults
- You generally spare yourself the indignity of rest home living since you die early of some other obesity related disease
- You are not as offended by foul smells since you are toting your own odors around
I am sure that you have a few more that you could add but basically you become a more tolerant person out of necessity. If you love food like I do you eat often and to excess. It simply is what you do. It provides you comfort in a strange way.
People don’t see you as a threat. Sadly, a lot of times they also do not see you as an asset. It is a lifestyle that a Food Addict like me can easily slide into and, after many years, believe that it is our “lot in life”. You can even half way convince yourself that you are happy.
But we both know that we aren’t really happy. We are just stuck in a Fat Rut. Give yourself a good look the next time you go to wash yourself. If you look really close you can see another person, the one you really want to be. I saw mine 59 days ago.
I will always be the FatMan. I will always be a Food Addict. But I will not always be FAT.
FatMan Knowledge Nugget: A skinny Food Addict is always just a few hundred cheeseburgers from being a fat Food Addict
God Bless us Fat People,
FatMan here. I had a personal fashion show this weekend. That is where you go through your closet and try on all of your clothes. Then you put all of the clothes that you can no longer wear in a pile and discard them. You are literally reinforcing in your mind how well you are doing. And it feels great.
I have done a few of these personal fashion shows. They are always a big ego boost, especially if you have lost a lot of weight since your last one. I recommend at least one month between shows maybe two. The more weight you have lost the better they make you feel. You can even take your old clothes and donate them to Goodwill for a tax write-off. During my fashion show I was reminded of some of the Silly Things that us Fat People do.
Have you ever gone out and bought bigger pants to look smaller? This is a strange sounding trick but it actually worked for me. Mentally I felt smaller when my pants were loose. I even got a chuckle when some of my friends asked me if I was losing weight. Too bad that this is more the “magic of illusion” rather than result of any real weight loss. But it did make me feel better if only for the day. It is also an expensive way to get some relief.
How about our good buddy Spandex? Any one out there ever buy a pair of pants with spandex waist expanders in them? That is a sure sign that you are conceding your fight with your waistline. Almost all of my “dress pants” have a spandex expandable waistline. It’s something that I look at now and go “whoa what was I thinking?” Didn’t I know that I needed to go on a diet? How did I let it get to that point?
It is amazing how you rationalize things to yourself. I was thinking I need these pants to stay comfortable. When you are really fat it is hard to get comfortable. You seem to be in a perpetual state of discomfort. After only dieting one week I ALREADY felt a lot better. I was still really fat, but I felt better. Spandex is a FatMan’s best fashion friend. Now I find myself looking at them as I put them in the discard pile and thinking, man what was I thinking then.
Speaking of FatMan fashion, have you tucked in a casual shirt lately? Fat people hate to tuck anything in for a few reasons.
- It makes you look really fat. All of your bulges are neatly outlined for anyone to see.
- The shirt never stays tucked in, in fact after a few minutes it looks even worse than before
That is why you see so many fat people wearing untucked shirts. We would like to be fashionable, we just know that it doesn’t work as well when you are FAT.
Have you ever seen a Fat Person out eating dinner? We always seem to be eating next to nothing. Come on, who is kidding who? We all know that we didn’t get that big eating celery sticks. Everyone at the restaurant is thinking to themselves that this fat person is going to get home and eat a gallon of ice cream. Let’s see a 200 calorie lunch and a 8000 calorie tub of ice cream still equals added fat, right?
There is plenty more as well. At your next family get together see if your cameraman is a fat person. If you are taking the pictures you don’t have to be in them.
And a final one for today. Ever notice how us Fat People love to tell everyone that we have just gone on a diet? We need to just keep this to ourselves. The proof is in the “pudding” as they say.
It is not a crime to be fat. The real crime is the price you pay being fat. Especially when you yourself can decide today to become “fat free”.
It ain’t easy being fat. Believe me I know exactly how you feel.
God Bless Us Fat People,
FatMan here. Another week of weight loss for the FatMan. Will it ever end? Let me answer that.
NO! It will never end. That is, my love for food will never end. I can learn to control it, but just like any other addiction it is always there hiding below the surface and waiting to erupt in an orgy of high calorie food consumption. “Consuming mass quantities” is a term all of us fatties are familiar with. We all love to eat and we all love food. The only thing really negative about food is that long term effects it has on our bodies. It is easy for us to “live for today” and worry about tomorrow later. After all there is always tomorrow right?
Let’s hope there is a tomorrow but let’s focus on TODAY.
FatMan Knowledge Nugget: Today is the most important day of your weight loss life, because what you EAT TODAY will impact how you look, feel and act tomorrow.
Why does anyone put off until tomorrow what they know they should do today? It is best described as PROCRASTINATION.
- The act of postponing, delaying, or putting off, especially out of habitual carelessness or laziness.
- Procrastination is the thief of time. — anon.
We all procrastinate. Sadly, so do I. I sometimes put off things for weeks, and it builds up to the point where I finally force myself to do it. Almost always after I am finished I think back and say to myself “Why did I wait so long to do THAT?” It didn’t take that long. It wasn’t that strenuous. A lot of times I even learn something. It is weird to try and figure out how you rationalize things in your own mind. It is almost like you have a different internal clock that will not allow you to act on something even if you know you should. The effect of non-action can be very paralyzing. If you are dieting it will lead to failure.
It can bring your progress to a stop before it even really starts.
So how do you combat procrastination? Do you need to have an iron willpower? The old shoe company slogan comes to mind and it is pretty accurate. I like to use another phrase that has served me well many many times. Like most good sayings it is simple and direct.
ACTION CURES FEAR.
If you just force yourself to take SOME ACTION, ANY ACTION toward completing your goal (even if you do not know what you are doing) it magically gets you moving forward. Once moving forward Newtons law of motion takes over and ” a body in motion tends to stay in motion”.
That is half the battle. Just getting started. Call it a New Beginning.
- make a decision and
- take action
Come see me if you need help.
God Bless us fat People,
FatMan here. I wanted to relate to you how I am feeling if I can. I have settled into a diet rhythm that is easy and almost boring. I can now tell if I eat too much one day or even at one meal. My body has learned to function on fewer calories and I have enough energy to exercise as well. My only real issue is that due to a back injury I can’t really go full bore exercising like I want to. Today I walked a mile and it felt pretty good. I will see how my body reacts later tonight and tomorrow and judge if I can continue. I hope so, it will certainly make the remaining 43 pounds easier to get off.
I have been on a “maintenance” type weight program for the last two weeks. My goal was to stabilize my weight somewhere around 220 pounds in preparation for another “Hare” weight loss period. This next period starts on Monday and will last for two weeks. It will consist of a reduced calorie plan in an effort to force my body into a Ketonic state.
This helps to burn off more calories and in turn fat. I am hoping to get down to 205 pounds by mid August. It is a fairly aggressive goal, so we will see how it goes. My other goal is to help as many people as I can learn to control their own Food Addiction. I will become more aggressive in my efforts to get the word out. If you know a Fat person like me that you think I could help send them a link to my blog. If you are Fat yourself, stop procrastinating and jump on board.
It is said that there are two kinds of people, the ones that jump in and enjoy life and the others that sit on the sidelines and watch and wonder what it is like to be “in the game”. Which one are you? For me this game is nearing halftime. The home team is up and looking pretty good. Come see me at fatmanmelts.com
God Bless us Fat People,
FatMan here. Yes you read that right. I have a free magic weight loss potion to share with you today . You don’t even have to drink it and you can start taking advantage of this great potion today! It’s something that I just re-discovered today.
FatMan Knowledge Nugget: Motion is the Magic Free Weight Loss Potion
Motion or exercise is great for anyone. It keeps you fit. It helps you look younger. It makes you feel better about yourself. It keeps you from eating. It gives you time to think about what you are doing and why. It helps you live longer. It burns off fat calories. It does this even if you haven’t been faithful to your daily diet. It can help offset a bad day at the dinner table. There is not a lot of bad side effects from exercise. Sure you can go overboard (like I did) and sustain an injury. But for the most part it’s great for you. You can even tailor your exercise to the specific body areas that need the most help. You can swim or walk or jog or bike or do step aerobics. You can do push ups or sit ups.
The best thing about this magic potion is that it’s FREE. All it takes is a little time. When is the best time to put yourself in motion? I guess there are a few good answers to this. Initially a routine time would be great at least until you can develop a consistent pattern for your motion. Another GREAT time for a little motion is WHENEVER you start to focus on EATING. Use your motion to replace your excess eating and accelerate your weight loss results.It is a way to replace a bad habit with a good one. The more good habits you form the better your chances are of keeping off the fat weight that you are losing.
You don’t have to overdo your motion, you just have to do it. The more the better. Start slow and build up. Walking is good. Jogging is better. Running is best. I am just walking now, but at least I am in “motion”.
By the way I am now at my lowest weight in 10+ years. I still have a long way to go but the results are great so far.
Have you taken a good look in the mirror lately? Is it time for you to get in motion? Let me know if I can help.
God Bless us Fat People,
FatMan here. I got my MRI results and they said that I was OK, no major issues. I guess my leg being numb is normal. Do I sound bitter? Nah that is just the sound of my $600 MRI check cashing, lol. Anyway, at least I have the piece of mind that comes with knowing where you stand and that really does mean a lot. It eliminates doubt. Hopefully, the feeling in my leg will return soon. So I guess now I have a semi green light to move forward with my workouts. I will start slow and build up from there. It is almost like starting over workout wise.
So how do you feel? What are you thinking about yourself? About how you look and how you feel about how you look. I find that being Fat really can be a mental downer. You just feel like you start off the morning facing a world that dismisses you because you can’t control something as simple as your own waistline. It can really grate on you especially as weeks become months and then eventually years and years. After a while it becomes easy to just accept that you will always be fat, the subject of jokes and ridicule. That you will just be generally unhappy about the way you look.
-NEWSFLASH- You can rewrite your story starting today (if you want to)
Show me where it is written that you are destined to be fat and miserable your entire life and I will shut up. Well you can’t because it isn’t. One of the GREAT things about freedom is the freedom to change. Change how you look and change how you feel. I can also tell you that if you change how you feel about yourself it makes your quest to change how you physically look much easier.When you start to feel good and to love yourself and to encourage yourself to change you become a different person inside. When you change inside change outside is inevitable. People will notice the “new you” and remark to you about something being different. It is obvious when you see a person that is feeling good about who they are. They carry themselves differently. They exude a different attitude, they have a different walk, and they even talk differently. It is almost like they have received a blessing and are radiating happiness from within as a result. They are different. They are feeling GOOD.
So how do you go from feeling fat and tired to feeling good and on top of the world? Here’s how in a nutshell. It’s not that hard. First, you decide once and for all that you are tired of being fat. Then you decide you are going to lose weight and you make a plan to do just that. Then you follow that plan until you reach your goal. All the while you visualize yourself at your goal weight . You look and act like the person that you want to become until you become that person. Those are the basics. It is not a pill you take or an exercise you do or vitamin you buy or a potion you drink . It is a feeling that you instill inside that you nurture until it takes hold.
I got my feeling 54 days ago and now have lost 35 pounds of ugly life changing fat. I feel good and am starting to look good. Believe me when I say, you can do it too.
Come see me at fatmanmelts.com.
God Bless us Fat People,
FatMan here. I guess I am back where I started a few days ago weight -wise. I quit taking my pain killers and muscle relaxers. I don’t need them that badly anyway. I should hear back tomorrow on my MRI so I will know what is really going on with my back. It really only bothers me now when I sit down at the computer. And my right leg is a little numb down to my knee. Other than that I feel great. My diet is going along as expected this week. It should be a pretty quiet weight loss period. This journey has given me a lot of time to think and be introspective about my life, where I am, and where I am headed. I may be back where I started weight-wise but I am light years ahead of where I was sitting here 53 day ago.
I am encouraged by my results and the way I have been able to stick to my weight loss plan. It just reinforces to me my basic life premise that you can do pretty much anything that you set your mind to. I am fortunate that I have a great wifey that supports me and allows me to go for my dreams. She has lost 55 pounds herself and looks great. I will have to get her story on here as well for all of you women.
In life, I think that you get a number of chances to make a difference. Some of them you act on and some of them you let pass by. Sometimes even the ones that you act on you do not go at full speed. Consequently, you lose out on the full impact that you might have made. On those rare times that you identify an opportunity act on it and continue on a full speed until you finish you can really make a difference. A difference to yourself and maybe even to someone else. A positive difference that separates you from the crowd of people just surviving day to day.
It all starts with recognizing an opportunity when one comes along. Sometimes they are disguised as chores or “favors” to others. Sometimes they are just plain feelings you get deep in your gut that tell yourself that it is the right thing to do. It could be something small, or something very big.
The next time you get one think about actually acting on it and doing something. By doing so you just might find that something that your life has been lacking all along. You might not. But you will never know either way unless you give it a try.
If you are tired of being Fat and Tired a good place to start doing something might be to go look in the mirror and find the new you. If you need help come see me at fatmanmelts.com.
God Bless all of us Fat People,
FatMan here. I was really hoping that I would be able to go through the rest of my weight loss plan and not GAIN any more weight along the way. It just is not always feasible, especially when you cannot stay on a really tight diet for extended periods of time (excuse 1). I also have a back injury that has kept me from working out (excuse 2). The fact is that I gained 2 pounds today. I guess it is good in the sense that it serves as a wake up call for me. That is one of the benefits of weighing yourself every day. You can catch a negative trend early and act to reverse it.
FatMan Knowledge Nugget: Excuses are not worth the paper they are written on. Don’t make excuses instead make a better revised plan to succeed.
Gaining a few pounds is never a good thing when you are in a weight loss mode. Mentally, it makes you feel like you are going backwards. For me, I know that it is just a temporary type of setback and one that I was really kind of expecting last week. Practically speaking when you weight over 200 pounds your weight can fluctuate a few pounds a day, depending on your food intake and activity level. Hopefully, by the end of the week I will be back at 220 or below.
I have noticed in the last few days I have been noticeably more hungry than in past weeks. One of the only items different in my dietary intake has been the pain killer/muscle relaxer that I have been taking for my lower back pain. I do not know if these drugs have also had an impact on my weight gain but it is a curious coincidence.
For me, it is a blip on the radar screen. I am concerned and will react promptly. My reaction will be to watch my food input closer, and try to get some more activity going even with my current back situation. But life goes on and there are people a whole lot worse off then me. Last night I saw a show that that had 4 morbidly obese people on it. These guys and girls were literally eating themselves to death. One man was so Fat he could not even get out of bed. I would love to be able to help these people win their battle with Food Addiction. I can’t relate to being that big, but I do know what it is like to have your life revolve around food. It’s not fun.
FatMan Knowledge Nugget: People are motivated by action not advice
Watch me lose 80 pounds or come and lose some yourself at fatmanmelts.com.
God Bless us Fat People,